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Making space to hear, to know, and to care for people “not in our tribe” may be one of the most urgent and transformative things we could be doing.  In this bitterly divided era in American society and politics, may we who seek to be Jesus-followers live out our vocation as reconcilers and peacemakers with love and justice. A Language of Healing could be just the right practical help for our next steps at this important time.


President, Fuller Theological Seminary

Are you tired of all the animosity and vitriol that fill our society at every mention of politics or religion dividing us into two hostile camps on every possible side?  

So are we! We’re looking for others who want to change the dialogue from the rhetoric of polarizing animosity that is destroying the social fabric of our nation to a language of healing, where honest differences don’t have to destroy friendships. Then we can seek a broader common ground through mutual respect and compassion.

The conversation taking place in A Language of Healing for a Polarized Nation is one that needs to take place in coffee shops, board rooms, living rooms, around fire pits and water coolers, and in the office—especially if it’s an oval one. This book is a roadmap to compassion, understanding, and empathy at a time in which we seem to have lost the directions.



Author, Unscripted: The unpredictable moments that make life extraordinary


The Language of Healing will help you learn how to . . .


See disagreement as an opportunity for growth and discovery.


Change the temper of a hostile engagement or walk away.


Share mutual respect even beyond our deepest differences.


Become a peacemaker in your network of friends and family.


The book is divided into three main sections:

An opportune moment

 Why is this a particularly propitious moment to elevate the conversation, at least for the vast majority of Americans who are tired of those who manipulate them through fear and anger?

 Five Practices of a Peacemaker

What kind of conversation can lower the heat and increase the level of communication, especially where we hold significantly different views?

Operating in Shared Space

Our deeply held views do not have to be subjugated to cooperate with others; we only have to endeavor to make as much space for their views as we want for ours.


A Language of Healing for a Polarized Nation is the book we need at this critical moment in our history. At a time when many Americans are reduced to shouting past one another, the authors of this volume – three thoughtful, compassionate citizens – give us a roadmap to restore civility and respect across even our deepest differences. Filled with honest dialogue, inspiring stories and practical advice, this compelling volume should be required reading for every American committed to seeking a common vision for the common good. 


Founding Director, Religious Freedom Center of the Freedom Forum Institute

Wayne Jacobsen

Wayne Jacobsen is a best-selling author (He Loves Me, Finding Church, and co-author/publisher of The Shack). A former pastor, Wayne now hosts, which provides resources for spiritual growth and a podcast at both of which have inspired countless people to a more vibrant faith and a greater understanding of living in the church Jesus is building in the world. For over twenty-five years Wayne’s insight and humor have opened doors around the world whether it means resolving religious-liberty conflicts in public education, helping starving tribes in Kenya build a viable economy, or encouraging people to live more freely in the love and grace of God. He lives in Southern California with Sara, his wife of 44 years, where they both enjoy their adult children and grandchildren.